What to do when your partner's libido decreases

 

Low sex drive is rarely associated with men, however more women are reporting about their husband's lack of interest in sex. Why does your man refuse to have sex and what can be done in this situation?

 

Usually, sex problems in men are usually related to their partner's lower sex drive when he wants more than he gets. If the situation becomes quite the opposite and a woman is the one to beg for sex, this seems like a warning sign. In fact, loss of libido in men is very common.

 

One of the reasons for that may lie in the changes that occurred over the next years. Today a man is feeling the same increased pressure as women, who are not only aimed at career building but also need to be good dads and husbands. Isn't this surprising that the increased burden often leads to sexual fluctuations?

 

Another reason is the common misconception that men always want and are ready to have sex and only women are inclined to mood swings that affect their sex lives. But men just like women also feel stressed and tired after work and their emotions also count when it comes to sex.

 

Many women, who face this problem, tend to seek for the reason in themselves, thinking that they are no longer attractive for their partner or he has got an affair. In this case, it is better to clarify the situation. Communication is good only if you do not try to avoid blaming him. Probably you will need to start asking him about what might bother him. It is important to say that it is important for you to know why these changes occurred and tell him honestly about your feelings.

 

He may as well be worried about these changes, which can make the situation more difficult as he will try to avoid sex because of performance anxiety.

 

First of all make sure, that problem is not related to physical condition such as erectile dysfunction. It is known that almost half of all men will face this problem at least once in their life. It might be difficult for him to accept this fact as he might consider it a sign of weakness. Be supportive and do not exaggerate the problem. Also it is not recommended to fix the situation by focusing on sex.

 

Lost libido may well be just a passing stage and as stresses become weaker, you might enjoy the happy times again. Keep in mind that sexual problems occur in every family at one time or another, but marriages survive if both partners are willing to solve them and talk to each other.